What is the truth? This is a massive question. What is the truth? To the degree that you can truly answer this question concerning relationships, you can determine your happiness in your own relationship and accordingly in your life as well as your children’s life. Everything hinges on being able to answer this question. So knowing what is the truth is actually crucial.
The Christians know this verse, “I am the way the truth and the life”, What is the truth? What is it that we call the truth? The answer may surprise you.
It appears to me that we are born with a degree of numbness. Here is what I mean. A child has to know from experience that when he or she smacks another child that other child cries. When he or she gets smacked by another child he or she cries because it’s painful and so becomes sensitive to pain. The child has learned a truth – when you smack it’s painful. In this the child does not think so much of the hand moving to smack another child but will remember the sensation of pain and now knows what pain is. Before the experience there was no sensitivity to it. This is why I am referring to it as a numbness. What relation does it have to the question of what is the truth?
Truth is the essence of knowing that remains after an experience. It is different from individual to individual. What you know to be true will always be personal to you . You eat a fruit and it tastes bitter and you get to know that the fruit is bitter. You taste something good and from that moment you know how it tastes.
That ‘how it is’ thing is what we mean by truth. There is an ultimate truth that we are all working towards and that ultimate truth is for each individual to stand up one day and say “I AM” and truly understand who they are. This is the ultimate purpose for each individual. To answer the questions Who am I and why are we here? We are here to walk the way back to who we really are.
There are natural steps that have been put in place for this. A relationship is one of the crucial steps.
Here is something interesting about truth. People sometimes confuse truth with uniformity. That when something is true to them it is true to the same degree in everyone else. This is the lie that most live and this is where most imposition stems from. It comes from thinking that an individual’s truth should be the same as everyone else’s. This also breeds intolerance. When a fruit is bitter, the bitterness is never to the same degree to everyone. That is why one person will tolerate it and say they like the fruit even though it’s bitter and the other will not stand it at all.
People will love each other and we will all use the same word for it, ‘they love each other’ that is true. But the degree of one couple’s love is always different from another’s. That is also true.
However, there is a process about loving each other that is true for everyone and this is the way to the ultimate truth.
We go through different processes that decrease our numbness and we awaken to certain truths. To the degree that we awaken through truths, we awaken to who we are, what we know and what our preferences are till we get to the ultimate truth and there we enjoy all the delights that life brings. That means through truths we slowly awaken to who we really are.
There is another side to this, it is applying those truths in the world that we live in and in ushers the differences between men and women.
The first point of entry to all this is the love of knowing the truth. There is a proper recognized word for it. The word for ‘the love of knowing the truth’ ; That word is called “curiosity”. Curiosity is the urge to go out and discover the truth. Curiosity is the process of ‘the love of knowing the truth.
Boys and men are more into this discovering of the truth. They tear things apart and go out on daring adventures much more than girls do. Boys and men are naturally driven by that love of truth. They look at a car and they want to know how it works, how practical it is, is it worth it?? In the same scenario what do girls or women do?
They love to have a beautiful car and drive it. Not out of the love of it’s engine or it’s practical details like men do but just from the joy of driving the car. Men will experience the joy of owning and driving the car from a practical point of view. For the woman the details of how it’s made and it’s power and all that stuff rarely comes into focus, all she wants is a car to drive. She has the love for a car to drive. It’s an emotional decision.
So from his curiosity and practicality, a man goes out and makes things that the world at large uses. His truth creates for the world and thus the man is the provider. She falls in love with what he creates, in other words she falls inlove with his truth. In other words, she loves the man’s practicality to provide. Even if she buys the car with her own money, basically men made the car and in that sense men are providers. This is a fundamental truth in relationships. So besides being attracted to a man at the onset, the woman then falls inlove with the man’s practice of what he knows, his truth, his wisdom.
But for this to be true in the true sense, she needs to trust that he is the one that carries the practical truth. Only through this understanding can she help him to become wiser within the relationship and he is then able to carry his responsibilities well as being the protector and the provider. Not the provider as in earning a lot of money but a provider in coming to wise decisions around the family and the world at large. Truth and practicality are one and the same thing. Those that know less will be less practical.
Women love to enjoy what the man brings. He gives, she receives. These are the true dynamics of a relationship. Getting this truth wrong is the reason for all the mess we see in relationships. He is practical and she loves his practicality. He gives she receives. A man repairs or makes things for the woman e. g. no woman goes under the sink to repair a leak. When a man can do such things for his wife, she loves him to no ends. When he knows how to properly give her his seed, she loves him to no end.
This is an equation that has been tipped and is totally misunderstood in today’s world. This is not about THOSE rights. This is about an equation in nature that NO ONE can choose to change willy nilly unless they want to be unhappy all their life and consequently making their offspring unhappy.
What is the truth? The truth is the knowing of ‘what is’… and then from that truth, through being practical, using what we know to create things. So the truth is the essence from where we create and finally discover the ultimate truth.
Men create more and women create using what men create. Lol! This is a funny one that most women will not want to hear.
Well, men build cars and women drive them to their friend’s baby shower! Men make women pregnant and women love and nurture the babies to build the backbone of society. These are clearly defined roles no matter how we want to look at it. The man facilitates and the woman makes use of what is provided. This is what is the truth of where it all begins in relationships and this builds to the top most truth finally. Relationships properly done lead to a final truth which is supercharged love. A delightful love that makes us wise beyond anything we have ever known .
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