Most people worry because they have no self confidence but building self confidence or a lack of it is a part of us all. It is nothing to worry about but something to be excited over. As a new born baby you come with lack of skills and have to build yourself through examples in your environment.
Self confidence is made not born. Therefore I want you to know that by the time you leave this website you will know
- how to develop self confidence,
- how to build self confidence,
- how to build self esteem,
- how to gain self confidence,
- how to improve self confidence or
- how to increase self confidence.
All the above imply the same thing.
The good news is that with every step and every action we take we are increasing self confidence. It feels discouraging sometimes because it’s a game of hit and miss as we are working with insufficient information but that doesn’t matter. As long as you keep trying you will get there.
How much time does it take to get it right, to feel confident? This question reminds me of a song I used to sing a lot when I was younger. Here… I will share it with you before I continue.
I digressed… lets get back to business. Lol! Hope you enjoyed that song.
To answer the question – ‘How much time does it take to get it right?’ We have to look at what is self confidence and then see what is required to get there?
From my search on internet here is the definition of Self Confidence that I got – ‘a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities and judgement.’
To have a feeling of that trust in the self, I believe you must have a strong sense of the self. To have a strong sense of the self you must first know who this self is. I personally believe this is where every human has a glitch.
Who are you? Truly… and what is your potential? Most people guess on this one and I know the answer is far off the mark.
We attempt to do things before we understand who we are. This is how everything we do is a case of hit and miss.
The questions I have from the above are: –
- How is it possible to have a feeling of trust in one’s abilities?
- I won’t even go to the qualities part of this because that is the biggest problem here.
- How do we talk about quality when we have no idea what we are judging it against!
- How can you know how good anything is when you have no idea of how much potential is that thing has?
When you know exactly what potential there is then it’s possible to know if results are good or far below potential.
We have never been introduced to how we basically function. What do we use to decipher original make up. What are we made of? What antenna do we have so that we CAN talk about judgement? From what point of view do we see our qualities or judge anything? What is the level of beingness that is common to everyone from where we can talk about everything else without confusion?
It is ONLY when we can find that base from where we all operate that we can begin to trust in our abilities. Trusting our abilities comes from a knowledge of our potential. Only when we know our potential can we carry out anything with self confidence.
Books have been written, the law of attraction has come and gone and yet we still struggle.
When we think, how do we know we are coming from a point of original beingness? How do we know it’s not from the figment of our imagination? Most of the time we actually think and act from our fears. Self confidence comes from a place of knowing and not guessing. Knowing comes from understanding how we are basically. Only then do we know what qualities we have and when we choose to judge our abilities it is from this place of authenticity.
Because we are born clueless of what we are supposed to do and not knowing a single thing but copying from our environment, lack of confidence is a natural part of each individual. My duty now is to explain where we are coming from and who we are basically. From this explanation, those who understand it, will naturally acquire self confidence.
We are a human species, blessed with emotion, thought and intuition. Harmonizing these three creates the basic coherent self that we basically are. If these are not in harmony we get confused. We lose the ability to build self confidence.
Where Do You Begin?
The following links will lead to extremely interesting information on this website about getting to know oneself. Take your pick and slowly you will move towards understanding how to build self confidence.
- Know Thy Basic Self
- Understand your Thinking Process
- The Underlying Force That Connect Us All
May the wind of self confidence blow your way!